…ut off by the author’s assertion that men come out triumphant, healed and clean from sexual trauma, after sitting with it i think that saying something like that is a mix of both the reality that the few popular narratives of mens trauma are framed in a shiny patriarchal pedestal of “manhood” on the one hand, and on the other i think perhaps that the few narratives of men surviving rape arent yet enough to …
I did not explain well enough but this is what I meant, not to speak or say that people’s healing and trauma is cleanly linear, triumphant, successful, even as men. But that patriarchy allows this more easily for men who fit that narrative, or demand men’s expressions of trauma fit this narrative.
As for the rest, yes, a thousand times, yes. Thank you.